Do you thrive in the quiet? Or in the none stop rush of the spinning world?
Each element has its own worth, and we can find each within the other if we look closely.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
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Several months I got to participate in an author interviewed with Kirsten McNeill. She is a fellow creator, author, editor, podcast host and creative coach. She has some really amazing new things in her future. But following her dreams has meant she needs to leave some old projects behind, so the platform our interview lives in is coming down.
Today, it gets a new home in the form of this post, and I really encourage you to check Kirsten and everything she is about out. She interviewed me about my upcoming chapbook, and now I will also share her creative endeavors with you.
A bit from Kirsten:
As a creative, I’m always coming up with new project ideas and searching for ways to express myself.
One of my latest ideas is to become a life purpose/creative life coach to encourage writers (and other creators) to embrace their journeys and live the life they want unapologetically.
I love helping others feel good about themselves and work to build a positive mindset in their daily activities. And many writer friends have said that I’m already leaning into the coaching world with my sunflower happiness!
My first step in becoming a life coach is taking a certification program. There’s one starting in October, and the last day to sign up for the early bird special is October 1st!
I’ve created a campaign goal on Buy Me A Coffee and it would mean the world to me if you helped me reach it!
Show your support by spreading the word, helping me raise funds, and letting me know what you think of the EXTRAS!
Learning from this program will expand my knowledge base to help others feel more confident and happy in their journeys.
Go to buymeacoffee.com/kirstenmcneill to contribute to my campaign. What extra would you like to see me create for you?
Authors Interview:
What inspired you to begin your writing journey?
Ever since I was a little girl, I have been a very avid reader. Back then, my favourite books were about Pippi Longstocking. I loved that a little girl like me could adventure and do ridiculous things. Stories give us freedom to dream like that. I used to make up my own stories about her.
As I aged, I found that writing gave me release from the confusing emotions that come with growing up. It felt so natural to me to use a pencil to dream and pour out my pain and fear and doubts.
I have only been aspiring to write for others the last few years. It’s only because of the encouragement I received from other writers and authors in my life that has given me the courage to ‘write out loud’.
What are your favourite genres and themes to write about?
I write a lot of poetry. It’s a wonderful way to process emotions and understand them. I enfold questions and truths about my own mental health, and faith into these poems. I love story telling. Poems are great ways to tell stories in vivid imagery. The short story in its many forms is also important to me. The ability to compress all I want to say into just a few words is something I am continuing to learn. I like to use short stories to explore how different perspectives can lead to a deeper understanding of the world and ourselves.
What are the challenges you face in writing?
Finding time would be one of the biggest challenges. I have been homeschooling two of my three children over the past year. Much of my life has revolved around childcare, so the moments I steal in the middle of the business to write are often interrupted. I also have a mild form of dyslexia. I have improved over my years of writing but rely on grammar software to see mistakes that my eyes and brain miss.
Tell us about the poetry collection you’re working on!
It will be a grouping of twenty-five of my best faith-based poems. These poems revolve around my prayers, my questions, even my battles with mental health and faith. My working title is ‘The Branch That I Am’. I hope to make this collection available between August and the end of November, of this year 2021. This is my first experience working with a professional editor, and I am enjoying the learning happening in my creative space.
What are the best parts of bringing topics of mental health and faith into your writing?
What a great question. Overall, I think it’s the chance I have to share Hope. When we are in the middle of darkness, it is so easy to lose sight of the hope that we have. I believe in a God that will sit with me in the middle of my pain and confusion. He isn’t far away, he is present. He is that hope.
The two are so intertwined in my life that I cannot separate them. If I didn’t have that hope, I wouldn’t still be alive. SO the best part of sharing my hope with the world as writing, is that maybe someone else will come to hold hope as well.
How do you balance your writing schedule with the other aspects of your life?
Not always very well. My kids always come first, but the crumbs on my carpet don’t get vacuumed up enough. I do try to take all my tasks for the day in bits and pieces spread out. Everything I write starts as a note on my phone. I write whole rough drafts there.
What’s the greatest lesson you’ve learned in your writing journey?
It’s okay to write crap. Honestly, it’s so freeing to know that the first draft doesn’t have to be this glorious thing. It’s almost always really horrible. THAT IS OKAY.
What’s the most important thing to you when it comes to creativity?
It is individual. As humans, we are constantly comparing ourselves to each other. But our creativity is as distinct as our fingerprints. My writing or painting may have similar styles to someone else, but they are my own. My skills and message will grow at their own pace.
What’s the best advice you can give to fellow writers?
Never give up. When I was fourteen, I knew I was a going to be a writer. But I didn’t know I would be a poet, no idea it would take until I was in my 30’s to bloom and be ready to show the world my words. Don’t give up. If you put words on paper, or screen, you ARE a writer.
What do you do when you’re struggling to come up with ideas?
I really love short forms of writing. I use six word stories as an exercise when I feel blank inside. It starts as just looking at someone else’s art, a picture or painting, and trying to see the story hidden behind the obvious. I try to express it in just six words. If I can focus and pull those six words from my heart and mind, it usually jump starts something for me.
Can you share your favourite snippets from articles and poems on your website? What makes them special to you?
“I asked the Lord to keep me brave.
Hold my chin above the wave.
Lend me strength to tread the line.
Close my mouth to deadly brine.
Whether rescue comes for me,
or in death, I am set free.
I asked the Lord to keep me brave,
as I swim above the grave.”
These lines from my poem ‘He Keep’s Me,’ might seem dark to others. But to me, it’s a reminder that I am never alone. He always keeps me brave.
‘When Creativity Hurts’, is one of the first articles I wrote on creativity.
“I also ask myself, is it worth this hurt? I always came back to the answer, yes. Creativity is worth every tear. Why? Because it can help me heal, if I let it.
Will I let it? Will you let it? Or will we all let creativity work its cauterizing powers on our emotional and spiritual wounds?”
These are just a few lines from the article, but they show the heart of it. Creativity is such a gift from God. There have been years I lost hold of my creative spark in the middle of my battle with depression. I pray God gives me the strength to never let it go again.
What are your goals for the future in your writing career?
After this first chapbook, I have plans for several more centered around different themes. Family, Love, Nature, and Thoughts about life in general. I would like to see one published per year for the next four or five years. Whether I accomplish this will depend on that family work time balance.
Further down the line, I have hopes for writing full-length novels and collections of short stories.
Any last thoughts to share about Mary Grace or your writing experiences?
I just feel so blessed in being given the opportunity to share my story. I’m humbled by the thought of my words reaching out in to the future and touching those I will never meet.
I am praying for readers and fellow writers to come alongside me and help me learn, grow, and reach my goals. If anything, we have talked about resonates with a reader, I encourage them to reach out to me. Join my monthly newsletter and let’s do this thing called creativity together.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Mary Grace van der Kroef!
Stay in touch with her on her website, and read more of her work here: He Keeps Me (poem), When Creativity Hurts (Article).
Thank you Kirsten for giving my words space. I look forward to seeing what the future holds for YOU as well.
– Mary Grace van der Kroef –
It came skipping
in exuberance unchecked.
A child with something to say.
It left,
deflated.
Dismissed by the one it would engage,
and aged.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
Encouragement is important to creativity. To hear constant criticism, or belittlement of our efforts, is deadly to most people’s dreams.
“Oh my! You are so talented.”
People love to hear this comment. But could it and the beliefs behind it be hurting, more than helping creativity?
I see potential danger lurking in the background.
Natural, or raw talent, is a beautiful thing. Each of us have it. Weather that talent has to do with speaking, writing, sculpting, painting, or listening to a friend. Perhaps it looks different for you, like understanding complex logical thought patterns.
Regardless, each human is gifted in something. But if we believe our ability to succeed rests solely on that natural ability, it will limit us.
What happens to a runner, who is fast from birth, but as soon as running hurts, they stop training? They will never stand on an international podium. It’s the same for creatives who refuse to do the hard work.
For a writer, hard work is research, editing, and lots of words that will never be in a book.
What is your talent? What is hard work and growth for you?
Can working at something you are not naturally talented at be worth it? Should you give up?
NO!
If you work hard, you will improve.
Sure, maybe you won’t be world famous. But I am confident you will reach a higher level of ability if you persevere. Hard work trumps talent alone, every time.
“Your hard work is paying off.”
“Look at you grow!”
“I love your perspective.”
These three compliments are powerful and satisfying to my soul. They acknowledge things that have happened behind the senses while still praising.
Next time we give a compliment, let’s think about what it’s really communicating and ask ourselves, could we give more than a nod to talent?
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
Even when the sky is overcast, a sunflower always knows where to look.
I am envious of this nature.
“How can you just KNOW?”
“I just do.”
A snippet of a conversation I have had on more than once occasion with someone close to me. How can you JUST know?
It is a nature given to a quiet few, and the sunflower too.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
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Creak of staircase sounds.
Eyes through spindles peering.
“I’m thirsty Mommy.”
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The clock ticks constant.
Refrigerator purring.
Air through nose louder.
.
Rolling over, pops.
Rejected sheets whisper,
one more bathroom trip.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
At Calla Press, we are unashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ and we desire to glorify His name above all else.
– SAMANTHA CABRERA, Calla Press Founder and Editor
It blessed me to be in the right online writing group at the right time to hear Samantha Cabrera’s announcement about reopening Calla Press. What a job they have done. The new website is gorgeous and the stories and voices they are amplifying do just what they claim their mission is all about. Glorifying Jesus Christ.
Calla Press is a Christian literary journal publishing articles, poetry, prose, flash fiction, creative none fiction, and photography.
– Calla Press Website
A huge thank you to the team for including my poem ‘Hope‘ in their web publications. I invite you all to head over to their website and read my piece, as well as the many other great words you will find there.
Mary Grace van der Kroef
Note: They receive submissions for the website on a rolling basis, and publish a print issue once a year. Submissions will open for that print issue in September.
The word ‘art’ usually invokes images of paintings, drawings, or maybe woven tapestries from a different time. Or maybe the word ‘art’ brings a favorite story to mind, or a famous poem, or sculpture. But art is so much more than those things, and lives in so many places.
The hands of come in all shades, sizes, and from all places. They stir cooking pots, pull stitches through fabric, and yes, weld iron beams into place.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
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I finally got up the courage to send three of my poems in for consideration at Agape Review and was very pleased to have all three accepted. The editors said my work resonated with them. It’s always great to receive feedback like that.
I invite you to read ‘Love Is‘, ‘Goodness‘, and ‘Self Control‘.
Agape Review is a new online venue I have been following since their first post. They have been pulling in some great work that reflects on the Christian Faith. If you enjoy reading reflections, poetry, fiction, and creative none fiction with a faith element, they are a must read.
Thank you to their team for giving my words a space.
Mary Grace van der Kroef
Maybe it’s not the scribbles of a pencil for you, but we all have ideas we discard.
Do they scream at you from the wastepaper basket? Have your dreams died before you realised them? Did you fail mid way through? Did you cast them aside before you even tried?
Try again.
Every crumpled paper is a stepping stone.
©2021 Mary Grace van der Kroef
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